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DJ 1.0: The Rules of Office Romance

February 27th, 2007 · 5 Comments

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You are going to spend a lot of time at work. This is especially true early in your career as you use youth to outpace others. The ratio of women to men is increasing as more and more women join the workplace. Companies encourage teamwork, honest communication, and after hours interaction. Most work environments bring together people who share your economic, social, and education level. Those dynamics are combined with being young and passionate with a new steady source of income. It is a bittersweet recipe for romance.

Most advice regarding office romance will tell you to be discreet, steer clear of your managers and subordinates and review the HR policies. That advice assumes you are going to stay with a company and can successfully navigate the political hailstorm you will fall into. The better advice – advice that is both easy and foolproof – is just don’t do it.

Don’t do it. You will want to, but don’t. What about that really cute girl who flirts with me? Don’t. What if I really dig the guy in accounting? Don’t. What about my manager who says he can “take me far”? Really don’t.

Below is a handy chart for when to pursue your office romance

Romance Table

The fact is office romance is prevalent. So is surfing for porn at work. The best advice early on is to avoid both. You may find a date, but you’re not likely to find your soul mate. In the mean time, you will have to deal with increased HR scrutiny, jealous coworkers, office rumors, productivity losses, suspicion of favoritism, potential career damage, loss of power and the threat of sexual harassment lawsuits. And that’s only if you’re dating.

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5 responses so far ↓

  • 1 ARM // Feb 27, 2007 at 11:36 pm

    Office is a work place , do not make it Romance paradise

    This really looks like blog spam to me, but what the heck… It almost fits. -dc

  • 2 Louis // Mar 1, 2007 at 1:07 pm

    Funny chart ! I posted it on my cubicle wall. People are already falling for my sense of humor… : )

  • 3 JonR // Mar 2, 2007 at 8:43 am

    will you go out with me?

  • 4 Jon Rowett’s Workblog » Links for 02 March 2007 // Mar 2, 2007 at 9:33 am

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  • 5 VladB // Mar 3, 2007 at 1:13 pm

    I cannot stand her charm. I have to date her. Will I be fired for it?

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